Girls are hypocrites that screw over guys all the time. I say this with complete confidence and certainty. I have had experiences and know of others that have had similar experiences, and let me tell you... it is complete bullshit. Read on.

First off, let's go over what most girls think the ideal guy is. The ideal guy is an intelligent, caring and easy to talk to person, who has a good sense of humor and respect for his family. He is good looking, but not necessarily gorgeous, and an honest guy with goals in his life. He is not an excessive smoker or drinker, and never, ever is arrogant or stuck on himself. He is a pleasure to be around. Wow. That sounds perfect. There is no way there is a guy out there that is all of these things, it would be a dream come true. But the fact is, there are so many guys out there that are exactly like this, and even better. They go beyond this list and further hoist themselves up on the "Ideal Guy" hierarchy ladder. But these are the guys that are the most shit upon by girls. How much sense does that make? Read on.

Girls are hypocrites. They say that their ideal man, and the one they are currently hoping for, should be very much like what was described in the previous paragraph. What is more, they all probably know at least 3 or more guys that are exactly like that. But instead of noticing and entering into a relationship with them, they totally shun these poor guys. Ok, so maybe I should not say totally shun; it's more like damn them to an eternal life of "#1 Friend" or "#1 Listener." While these guys would like nothing more than to be boyfriend/girlfriend with these girls, the girls want nothing of that sort. Because they have been labeled as "friends", those damn girls don't even consider these guys as boyfriend material, thus their search goes on. They don't realize that the best guy they could ever hope for is so damn close to them. They are ignorant. They get the assholes instead.

Why do girls like assholes? Here is what I think. These guys are temporary boyfriends until the girls can find that perfect man. But once they get involved with these assholes, the girl must put in so much work that the search is put off... indefinitely. They pour all that they have into their current relationship. Why do they do this? I am glad you asked that, I believe I have the answer. They are embarrassed. These meat headed guys embarrass these girls so much that all they try to do is change the guy, but she forgets about their asshole ways and arrogance. You cannot change a guy. Don't even try. No matter how sweet or persuasive you THINK you are, it will not work. A temporary behavior change may be noted, but a guy is a guy and will not change permanently. Deep down, the only thing you are doing is pissing him off. These assholes think that they are perfect already. You trying to teach them how to be the perfect guy only goes against everything he already "knows" is right, so he pushes you away. When he pushes you away, what do you do? You cry to that "#1 Friend" of yours. Then you are extra nice to your boyfriend until he allows you to get closer again, and then you start the process over.

I don't know how many times I have been cried to by a girl about her asshole boyfriend, and the next day everything is right again and she is happy as can be. You aren't happy. It is a front that you put up and everyone can see through it. Do you honestly expect for it to get better? It won't. The cycle will repeat: he will get mad; you will cry; you will try to make up for it; he will let you back; you think you are happy... it doesn't end. It should end... end with you dumping his sorry ass and moving on to someone you actually can be happy with. But you are too stubborn and confident in your abilities of persuasion to do anything even remotely correct.

Meanwhile, the perfect guy (ok maybe not perfect, but a hell of a lot closer than that ass you already have) sits around wondering what he can do to change. But remember what I said before. You can't change a guy. This goes for guys, too. You can't change yourself. You will always be the person you are, and you shouldn't want to change that. But it is tough when time after time girls pass on you because "You are too good of a friend and I wouldn’t want to jeopardize that." Bullshit. Nice excuse. Why don't you just say "Sorry, you are actually a nice guy. I am looking for an arrogant asshole that will abuse me emotionally." That's what you really want, isn't it? Look around and tell me it isn't true. Look at your friends and tell me they are dating the best guy ever. You cannot do that save for maybe one or two couples. Those are the girls that have matured already and realized what they had been missing. They are just lucky that the guy stuck around with her. I admit, there are exceptions to this theory. But me personally, I only know maybe 4 or 5 girls who do not fit this mold. They are genuinely happy with their relationship and everyone knows it. They aren't putting up a front. They aren't hypocritical. They aren't ignorant. But I can guarantee that you cannot find many more than that that are that genuine. At least not now. At least not until they realize how bad they have been and come to their senses. But by then, will it be too late?

Girls shape up and look around you. Look at the truly amazing guys around you that would make your lives better just for being with them. Stop hurting those guys. You are hurting yourself, too. Think about it.

By James M. Igneczi